Written and Illustrated by Koriander Bullard
Please, don't imagine I am writing this letter out of spite. Rather, this is on behalf of the young girls bobbing their heads to your songs, the young creatures not yet old enough to understand the consequences of life. And more for the adults who have proven themselves to be easily swayed.
We all saw what happened on MTV. You were accepting an award, when suddenly, Kanye West stormed the stage, took your microphone and said “I'mma (sic) let y'all finish, I'm sorry, but Beyoncé had one of the best videos of all time.” before jumping off the stage like a mad rabbit.
You were so upset that someone took away your limelight, that you walked away, never even thanking the people who gave you the award.
You were so upset, Beyoncé took pity on you, and gave up her award time to let you return to the stage and take your earned time.
We all saw what he did, and we all agreed it was tasteless.
…. It was also in 2009.
Three years from September will make TEN YEARS since Kanye stormed the stage and took your precious spotlight. In the seven years since, the world has moved on.
It's time you did too.
It's also time you learned to let go of your past in other areas.
It's fine that you've had more than one boyfriend in your limited run in the spotlight. You wouldn't have been born for another twenty plus years when the sexual revolution of the 1960's paved the way to allow men and women the right to date around without the usage of ugly slang thrown in your direction. You're an American citizen, it's your right and nobody needs to question that.
What is not alright is the aftermath.
For example, Joe Jonas was barely out of your life for thirty seconds before you jotted down “Forever and Always” where you playfully jab “Cause I was there when you said forever and always. You didn't mean it, baby, I don't think so.” which was followed by “Last Kiss” with the lyric “The life of the party, you're showing off again” and the third Joe Jonas song “Better than Revenge” where you not only rip up Mr. Jonas, but also his now ex-girlfriend, a woman you never actually met. I'm only using Mr. Jonas, because the less said about the album you dedicated to Jake Gyllenhaal the better. The most popular track for him had you belting out a near tantrum “never ever ever ever” for the longest four minutes of anyone's life.
For each celebrity boyfriend, you have written songs (sometimes a whole album's worth) about them, posted catty things against them on Twitter, posted snide comments about their new girlfriends or regular acquaintances, and then insisted that the world greets you as a victim. When you are confronted you insist the person telling you to “stop trolling” is the “real” hater and bully, and then you cry for a few days before posting a triumphant message to your “haters” reminding them that you will “shake them off” insisting you didn't take to heart what was asked of you, which was again, that you stop bullying your exes.
Taylor, in less than three years, you will be 30 years old.
For the sake of your fans, it's time to stop.
You have impressionable fans, many still in middle and high school, who follow you more than they follow Jesus Christ. This behavior of yours is not only childish and hurtful, it's also destructive.
Please ask yourself. Is this how you want to be seen?
Would you knowingly tell an eleven year old girl that it's alright to write scathing lyrics about a boy who doesn't accept you back, and then stalk him on Twitter? Because this is what you are doing when you're not complaining about Kanye, who since his MTV debacle has written you an apology song, gotten married and had two children, the first of which will be entering preschool soon.
If you know you have adult fans who are obsessed with you, would you knowingly tell them that bullying someone via Twitter is fine, but being told to stop bullying is you being bullied?
It seems there are people getting mixed messages here, and it's getting to the point where your fans are threatening murder and rape to complete strangers via Facebook and Twitter, simply because there are those of us calling for enough.
Taylor, you are a very famous singer, and rightfully so.
But it's time to put down the guitar, look in the mirror and ask yourself some hard questions. You can start with the small ones, such as “Why do all my relationships fail?” and “Why do I want to keep verbally assaulting the people who I break up with?” and you can then ask deeper questions. “Who am I, really?” and “What message do I want to share?”
Take some time off. Instead of looking for the next boyfriend to “understand your feelings” make time to understand them yourself. You can't seek a soul mate if you're not even sure of your own.
Taylor, if for nothing else, use your fame to good merit.
Have a chat with Dr. Phil. It's high time you sought therapy for the issues you have with male celebrities, and the sooner you do, the better off you will be.
Taylor, you can choose the high road and seek help, or take the low road and “shake me off” as a “hater”. It seriously won't effect me either way. You can even write a song about me if it helps you sleep at night.
Either way, the choice is yours. But whatever choice you make, understand that your public actions speak louder than any lyric, and trust that it is reaching your fans. And often, in a dangerous way.
Koriander Bullard is an author, cartoonist and human rights advocate. Keep up with her on Facebook!